Salam and Beautiful People. It’s been a while…
I initially started this blog with the hopes of posting at least once a fortnight. But alas, my priorities had to be put in order. I am still unclear about what the direction of my blog should be. So at the moment, I am just rolling with the punches.
I decided to write about something that’s been on my mind for a while now and it’s this whole business of ‘growing up’. Its just odd to me that I am in my early-twenties and I still feel like I have do much growing up to do. I am currently doing a very demanding course. I dedicate roughly 70 hours a week to it and I don’t feel like I’m making much progress. On top of that, I am taking driving classes but 30 lessons in I still can’t navigate round abouts. My social life barely exists and I find myself feeling guilty for not making an effort to stay in touch. Amongst all this Im also not on target for my Quran readings and memorization.
Somewhere in mind I had thought once I hit 20, I would have it all figured out. My career would be at its peak, I would own a car, finish memorising the Quran and maybe even own my own place.
Yes, feel free to scoff/laugh at the previous sentence because I definitely am 😂.
No matter how hard one tries, when you set targets and fail to achieve them, it affects your confidence and self worth greatly. But this post isn’t for whining about my life crisis lol. It’s about what being an adult really means and how to navigate through it.
Here is what I’ve learnt so far
- No one ever has it ‘all figured out’ even if they look like they do. People only present what the parts of themselves they want the world to see. No one usually shows the ugly side of things.
- Growing up is a process. A very long one too, so go at your own pace and don’t be hard on yourself.
- Don’t compare yourself to others because everyone’s journey is different.
- No one but Allah knows everything thing. So accept any mistakes as an opportunity to evaluate and learn something new instead of beating yourself down about it.
- Put yourself first. You can’t help others until you help yourself.
- Know your limits and take a break from work, social media, or even people when you need to. And don’t feel guilty about it.
- Stay focused and keep distractions away.
- To achieve anything you need a plan, focus and energy (physical and mental). So pay careful attention to these things anytime you take on a task. I found this great Audio book, ‘The productive Muslim’, very helpful with tips for productivity because it really breaks it down very clearly.
- No one can ever take what’s yours. So if you didn’t get that job, learn from it and see it as preparation for something better.
- You are your own person. Be honest with yourself and never be afraid or embarrassed to ask for help when you need it.
That’s it far. Hope you were able to take at least one thing away from it all. And remember,
“Verily, with every difficulty, there is relief” Quran 94:5
If you have any thing to add please share in the comment section below. And as a treat for reading my post up to this point, here is a timelapse video of how I created the image for this post.